Why You Are WORTHY of Love

Lifting your Self Worth with Love

Zeenat Merchant Syal, M.A, M.Sc
4 min readMay 18, 2021


The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring. ~ Oscar Wilde

Let me begin by asking you a simple question:

Are You Loved? Truly and completely loved for who you truly are…by yourself and by those around you…

Many of my clients and people I meet feel like they Don’t deserve to be loved, as if they arent worthy of it, even if they are being loved. They believe they have so many flaws, that how could anyone possibly love them. Most of these insecurities come from past trauma, but they also boil down to one thing that is missing…Keep reading to find out.

Everyone deserves love! Love is a divine gift we each possess the spark of. In-fact, we ARE Love.

Everyone on Earth wants to experience and be loved, but with so many struggling relationships(now more due to the pandemic) and the enormous divorce rate, something is obviously missing.

Why are we still not getting what’s missing?

LOVE is whats missing.

Many of you will think, but we loved our partners, we have love in our lives, then how is love missing?

There is a simple cycle to solving this major issue of struggling relationships. The cycle is:

self love — give love — heal — self love

Notice how ‘give love’ and ‘heal’ are safely tucked in between self love?

We each deserve to be loved, but first and foremost loved by our-self. If we don’t love our-self for who we are, we will never be able to do justice to any of our relationships. And the relationship that suffers the most in this gross in-acceptance, is our relationship with our-self. Hence we feel unworthy of love.

So, to answer the question as to whats missing, it is SELF LOVE.

No, I’m not talking about the Narcissistic or ego driven self loathing.

Self Love is something completely different

Self Love is gentle, it is kind and it makes you feel whole again without hurting you or anyone around you. Self love is acceptance of your flaws, it is understanding your gifts, it is nurturing your soul, it is respecting yourself, it is being kind to yourself no matter what. To put it simply, self love is caring for yourself like you would your own child. It’s pure and healing.

Your relationship with Your- Self is the longest relationship you will ever have in this lifetime. You might as well, work on that relationship first.

We need to infuse happiness and healing into our self, before we can infuse that same happiness and healing into the world around us.

We all want to be completely healed of our past emotional scars. The simplest and only step you need to make the effort for is self love. The whole healing cycle will just follow naturally.

Fear Based Relationships Often Fail

“Fear is the question. Love is the answer.” ~ Rain Bojangles

I have an admission to make- I have had a string of failed relationships in my past. It’s not a fact I admit to normally, nor am I proud of this. But Today, as I have let my ego go, after all I’ve learned, understood, encountered and felt, I know one thing for certain….that all those relationships failed because I wasn’t ‘in self-love’ at the time. Had I been loving towards myself, there are many of those relationships I would’ve never even gotten into. My broken emotional heart at the time wanted to latch onto to anything that looked like love, even though it clearly wasn’t. Every time any of these relationships failed, I would blame myself and think I don’t deserve to be loved. My self worth was what I always always questioned first.

Today, after a lot of self love and divine intervention I’m whole and healed. I know I deserve love, cause I’m a divine creation meant for it. Today, If after all my giving of healthy love, a relationship still fails, its ok. Yes it will hurt, but I also know it’s not my fault. I don’t blame myself. Because I know I’ve honestly given all my love in the nurturing of the relationship. And again, if a certain relationship runs its course, the end of it doesn’t distraught me. Infact it gives me a new found clarity about myself and my needs. If the relationship is meant to be, it will be.

I have understood the greatest life lesson from all the heartache, and that is, that a healthy loving relationship brings with it peace and not angst or drama.

My relationship with myself is my guiding force today. I need to be able to look myself in the mirror everyday with a clear conscience and a beaming smile that so deserves all the love it can get. Giving love and healing become such an amazing by product of self love.

With Love,

Zeenat Merchant Syal is a Practicing Counseling Psychologist & Spiritual Counselor. She writes on Healing the Mind, Heart & Soul through Positivity on Positive Provocations & offers Online Counseling there too.

Originally published on www.PositiveProvocations.com



Zeenat Merchant Syal, M.A, M.Sc

Psychologist & Spiritual Counselor who loves to write on Mental,Emotional&Spiritual Health while sipping on Coffee. 💌 www.PositiveProvocations.com